Time for Reason

Here are two claims that seem clearly true.  First, Jews have long suffered at the hands of others and the attack on October 7 was a horrific work of evil that was piled on top of previous antisemitic violence.  Second, Palestinians have long suffered at the hands of others and the Israeli government’s military response in Gaza is adding extensive suffering there.  (Relatedly, see this.)

Both of those claims are true; all should be able to recognize that.  We should also be able to recognize what makes both true—and that we agree about it.  We all know that suffering is bad, that we can recognize it when we see it, and that anyone causing it unnecessarily should be condemned.  (Not to the point here, but to prevent a certain confusion about what I am saying: I think some Israeli bombing in Gaza was or is necessary given Hamas’ actions; however, which and how much are reasonable questions.)

Somehow, though, many in the West seem unable to accept both of the claims and unable to calmly discuss the issue with anyone who has an opposing view.  This may be a failure of reason or education.  It may be a symptom of a society far more concerned to cater to people’s feelings than to encourage people to use reason to deal with their feelings.  One should feel bad for Israelis, but should be able to reason about that feeing.  One should feel bad for Palestinians, but should be able to reason about that feeling as well.  One should be able to use reason to understand that both of the claims I began with can be—are—true.

Perhaps it’s time, then, to realize that we shouldn’t always “validate” each other’s feelings, that feelings are questionable and at least sometimes ought to be questioned.  While our feelings are natural and important, they can be inappropriate.  We ought to encourage people to realize they can train themselves to reason more clearly about their feelings.  Instead of insisting on “validating” feelings, let’s recognize them as worth interrogating. Let’s use reason. (For a post on a similar theme, see this.)